TEN YEARS!! Holy cow. Sometimes it feels like it was just yesterday that all of our friends were dancing their butts off at our wedding. But apparently….it’s been a decade!
A couple years after Jake was born, and most importantly: after we started making enough money to be able to splurge a little bit, Jeff and I decided to make our anniversary weekend a priority for the two of us. I feel like it was a really smart decision for ourselves and our marriage. We don’t have regular date nights or a ton of opportunities to travel or go off on our own, so setting this one weekend a year where we really just focus on each other has been really great. Every year we end the weekend realizing we still love spending time with each other, which is pretty huge after being with someone for so long.
I’m also feeling pretty good about us reaching ten years (thirteen together!)…apparently the average first marriage that ends in divorce lasts eight years...so we’ve made it past that point. Side note: a kinda funny statistic from that same website: the five professions with the highest divorce rates are bartenders, dancers, massage therapists, gaming cage workers, and gaming service workers – I’m sensing a pattern, haha.
We’ve also passed the “high risk” years of years 5-8 – woohoo! Now we just have to get through the “low risk” of divorce through years 15, and then apparently a spike to “average” risk in years 15-20.
So – with all of those positive statistics on marriage, I’m glad we make it a priority to focus on our relationship and our marriage, at least once a year.
Here’s a recap of our past anniversary escapades:
This year we decided to cut the weekend back to a day, unfortunately. We couldn’t decide WHERE we wanted to go, and the cost of hotels in the areas we were considering was a little much considering we now have preschool payments for Josh AND childcare payments for Jake. So instead we decided to have a local day date – and it was great.
We started with breakfast at Le Peep (Jeff indulges me on our anniversary weekends with breakfast…it’s not his favorite meal…but I LOVE breakfast).
Then we had planned to do some shopping for US. We went to the Irvine Spectrum first just because it was such a beautiful day, and an outdoor walking mall sounded better than an indoor one, but all we found was stuff for the boys, haha. We did have a delicious and refreshing lunch at the Cheesecake Factory though, so I’m glad we started there (we both had salads, and although we were hungry later, it was the perfect warm day meal). We headed to the Shops at Mission Viejo after to continue our quest to find something for US, and we both lucked out with new shoes! Jeff found some great shirts as well. I can’t really shop for clothes at this point, so I was really happy to find some shoes that were comfortable and to get me ready for Fall.
At this point we were starving…so what’s better than an ice cream break? We headed down the street to Handels Homemade Ice Cream, and were not disappointed. The only disappointing part of this visit is that they only have a couple tables outside, and it was HOT. So we ate our ice cream in the car, haha.
After this treat, we headed to Laguna Beach to walk the shops and check out some of the artsy places that are too risky to enter with the boys, haha.
At this point, Jeff knew it was time to feed me, so we walked around a bit and lucked out finding Brussels Bistro. And we REALLY lucked out, because apparently for most places in Laguna Beach on Saturday night, you should really have a reservation. The food was delicious, and the ambiance was really great too.
We headed home after this. The boys were staying with grandma, so it was nice to head to a quiet home and watch a move that isn’t Hotel Transylvania or Woody Woodpecker. We actually watched a great movie called Long Shot (the romantic comedy one with Seth Rogan and Charlize Theron, not the true crime one on Netflix, haha). I was surprised with how much we enjoyed a movie we’d never heard of before! It was REALLY funny, and equally endearing. Plus, I’ve always been a Charlize fan…
We also got a quiet, mellow morning on Sunday! No kids needing to pee, or needing to be fed…just lounging in bed, catching up on Facebook and all those lame things we like to do when we’re not tending to children. Although by 8am we were ready to see our boys again, haha. We decided to get them donuts before we picked them up at grandma’s…just in case they had too much fun without us!
What’s your secret to a happy marriage? What’s your favorite romantic destination?